You are not alone.
Pause here for a minute and let that soak in.
Does that statement reach inside you and touch somewhere deep in your heart, like it does for me? I didn’t realize how alone I can feel doing this womanhood thing until I read those words and they reverberated in my heart, awakening in me the realization that I sometimes do feel very alone on this journey.
Several years ago I read the following words in Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge:
“I know I am not alone in this nagging sense of failing to measure up, a feeling of not being good enough as a woman. Every woman I’ve ever met feels it – something deeper than just the sense of failing at what she does. An underlying, gut feeling of failing at who she is. I am not enough, and, I am too much at the same time. Not pretty enough, not disciplined enough. But too emotional, too needy, too sensitive, too strong, too opinionated, too messy. The result is Shame, the universal companion of women. It haunts us, nipping at our heels, feeding on our deepest fear that we will end up abandoned and alone.”
As I read those words, walls around my heart that I didn’t even know were there came crashing down as I realized, “It’s not just me! All these struggles, all these fears – it’s not just me!” Hardened places in my heart began to soften and I had a whole new perspective on all the other women in my life as my heart awakened to the understanding that they, too, have similar struggles, hurts, and fears. Struggles, hurts and fears in deep places within our hearts that we struggle to give voice to. I began to see beyond the surface reactions and facades brought about by these deeper heart issues and started having compassion, love, and a desire to see healing and wholeness in the women my life touches.
So why am I starting this blog? I have a passion for you to walk in freedom and life, to equip you with tools to do that in every area of your life – womanhood, motherhood, marriage, and friendship. The mission of this blog is to be a place that breathes life into your spirit while equipping you with practical tools for your everyday life. I want you to know that you are not alone.
Through God’s grace, we’re going to make this blog a place where you and other women can come and be refreshed, strengthened, and equipped. I’m going to need your help. You have ideas, tips, and experiences to share that will encourage others in ways I can’t. I hope you will give of yourself here as the Lord leads you.
Have you ever been outside on a beautiful sunny day and stopped to close your eyes for a moment as you listen to the birds singing, feel the sun warm your skin, and feel a breeze, with just a hint of coolness, blow across your face? Did your whole self take in that moment and just go, “Aaahhh….”? My prayer for you is that as you visit this blog you will experience that sun and breeze in your spirit and leave going, “Aaahhh…..” 🙂
Now, I’m going to be covering a lot of practical things here, too, so every post certainly won’t give you goose bumps (unless homemade bread and yogurt give you goosebumps!), but my hope is that as you find tips and tricks here for the practical things, your spirit will become less burdened by struggles to find success in the areas where those practical tips apply, giving you more freedom to feel and enjoy those, “Aaahhh…” moments.
And now on a lighter note…
Welcome to The Domestic Toolbelt!
My name is Rachelle (pronounced Rachel, in case you were wondering). I love learning tips, tricks, and ideas that make my life easier as a woman, wife, and mother. And even more than that, I love sharing what I learn! If I share something that I’ve learned with someone else who also loves it and finds it useful, I get a bit giddy. Just ask my husband.
In order to bring order to all the ideas I have to share with you, I am implementing the following posting schedule:
Marriage, Mothering, Management, and Musings Mondays
Weight Loss/Weight Management Wednesdays
Food and Natural Living Fridays
A Bit About Me
1. I’ve been happily married to my best friend for 16 years. He’s pretty fantastic – sometimes he even gives me foot rubs!
2. We have four amazing boys ages 12, 8, 5, and 2. I’m so outnumbered!
3. I was a tomboy as a child so I actually kind-of like all the toads, sticks, and dirt that having boys brings. (As long as it all stays outside!)
4. I’m a non-recovering perfectionist and a neat freak, so sometimes my sanity is tested – boys are messy!!!
5. When I was 15 my family moved from Michigan to Florida. We lived on a 30 foot sailboat for the first 3 months. Four adult size people in something the size of a small travel trailer for 3 months. We played a lot of cards.
6. Green is my favorite color.
7. Tulips are my favorite flower. If you ever buy me some, I won’t turn them down.
8. I became a Christian at the age of 5.
9. When I was around 10, I read This Present Darkness (a story about spiritual battles between angels and demons) and then tried to cast the demons out of my sister when she got angry with me. It didn’t work.
10. When my husband and I first started dating I broke up with him because he said the “D” word at a football game.
11. I’m an introvert and generally not a big talker. I used to be so quiet in high school that one of my friends warned a new friend about how quiet I was so she wouldn’t be weirded out by me.
12. My husband has complained several times in our married life that I don’t talk to him enough.
13. We raised chickens for a while when I was a kid. Playing with chicken guts is educational and fun.
14. As a child, our home did not have electricity or running water until I was in third grade. Outhouses are not educational or fun.
15. These are a few of my favorite worship songs. You’ll need a Spotify account to listen to them, but they have a free version so it won’t cost you anything. (Spotify rocks. You should sign up if you don’t have it.)